Way back when, our female ancestors started the fight to have rights. The right to think, the right to an education, the right to choose whom to marry, the right to choose a career, the right to be acknowledged as a breadwinner, the right to be responsible for oneself, the right. . . Okay, there are just way too many things we had/have to fight for to list them all here. What a scary, scary thought ,though, that the things I now take for granted were not “intended” for me! clouded marbles
Although I can’t imagine not being able to think for myself, making my own decisions, fending for myself – I would’ve been regarded as a very rebellious female – or gaining knowledge and get recognition for it, that is not really what this post is about. Nope! I’m wondering if the continued fight is not actually taking something away from us women and, inadvertently, from men?!
A while back I read about Steve’s proud accomplishment in holding on to his Man Card.
I thought about the man card-thing the next time I had to, somewhat literally, pull my weight at work – stacking boxes and boxes of paper into a storage area. In the olden days this was thought to be a man’s job, you know, doing all the heavy lifting. If a man saw me doing this a few years ago, he might have come to my aid, offering to break his back before I’d have to break mine – and the best part – I wouldn’t even have had to ask! Yikes! Maybe I’m romanticising this a little – I do love my historical novels 😉
Asking a man for help today. . . hmmm. I’ve tried that a couple of times, you know. I’m not too proud to acknowledge my limitations and ask for help. But when a woman is refused (or unable to get) help, she will grow stronger, she will become more independent, self-sufficient and she will stop asking. And, when a man does offer help and a woman refuses it, the odds are that he won’t offer again – not today, not in my experience. Not that I can speak with any authority about what men think. In fact, that’s another thing I’ve always wondered about because gender logic doesn’t mesh most of the time.
So, Ladies & Gents, are we independent women robbing men of their Man Cards or are we just balancing the scales? [updated]